“I am beautiful, no matter what they say, words can’t bring me down…so don’t you bring me down today…” -Christina Aguilera
Body shaming: the action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size. How horrible is it that that is even a thing! The only people who should feel ashamed are those who are bullying others. We are all human, we have feelings and none of us are perfect. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” But then why do we automatically get put down when someone tries to shame us? If you are anything like me, you are your own worst critic and you already know how your body looks, and you may not like what you see all the time. This is where we need to change, we need to accept and love ourselves where we are.
One of the beautiful things about our world is that (for the most part) everyone looks different. In my life I haven’t met anyone who looks just like me, and unless you are an identical twin, you probably haven’t met anyone who looks exactly like you. So why are we trying so hard to look like everyone else? You wouldn’t take a rose, a daisy and a tulip and try to change them to all look the same. That seems silly but that’s what you are trying to do. No one physique is better than another. Embrace who you are and what makes you different. As the the great philosopher Hilary Duffy once sang, “perfect wasn’t really perfect, trying to fit a square into a circle was my life.” You may be striving for something that isn’t what you really want or need. I am a short, pear shaped woman, I can work out all I want but my legs won’t get any longer and my hip bones aren’t going anywhere, no matter how badly I don’t want to be shaped that way. It would be silly for me to try any strive for any other body type. Accepting you for the amazing self that you are and not shaming your own body is the first step to rejecting body shaming as a whole.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t try to be healthy and fit though. Some people think that the opposite of body shaming is to accept their unhealthy lifestyle and promote/persuade others to also live this lifestyle. Now, I know I am walking a thin line of what is accepted by society, but I will not condone an unhealthy lifestyle. Whether that is being dangerously underweight or overweight, they are both detrimental to your health. You can love yourself where you are while also striving to be the best version of yourself you can be. Just because you want to live healthier and either lose or gain a few pounds doesn’t mean you hate yourself. You should ALWAYS love who you are and the body you were given, but in that you should love and respect your body enough to treat it well. If you don’t love your body and treat it well, it won’t love you back and you could have a large range of medical conditions. I care about you and want you to be healthy, now it’s your turn to care about you and start loving your body today! Happy Wednesday Ya’ll!