Just because you are not where you THOUGHT you would be, doesn’t mean you’re not where you SHOULD be. Recently I have been dreading my next birthday, even though it is over four months away. Why though? I’m not that old, I don’t have bad experiences of past parties, I (God willing) have more to come, so why do I not want my birthday to come? It all comes back to being successful, and what each of us writes as the definition of being successful. I am a planner, I like to have a schedule and I stick to it, but life doesn’t work like that. What I should say is, “Thankfully life doesn’t work like that.” Though I see myself as a good planner and I have good ideas most of the time, I am glad my way hasn’t always worked out. As I just said, I have good ideas “most of the time,” (yikes!) what about those other times when my ideas were not so great? When I look back, I am very grateful that life doesn’t go as I planned, and I am glad I am not in control all the time.
The problem some of us are facing is that we can’t see the big picture, we can only see what is happening to us right now. If we just admit that there is a reason this is happening and that it will lead to better things, we might be able to stop stressing for a moment.The other problem is that we may be basing our success off of goals that were unrealistic to begin with. When I was younger I thought that I would get married by 20, have a baby by 25, be a stay at home mom and we would be living in a fantastic house, oh and of course I would be able to travel the world before all that happened. Sounds great right? But what about the money? Who was paying for this life that I planned? Boy, did it blow my mind when I found out how much a house cost, let alone rent. I am pretty sure I thought money grew on trees or that I would get some sort of fairy godmother. I know that what my teenage-self planned was not realistic for me, so why am I still so caught up by it? If you have answers please call: (1-800-j-u-s-t k-i-d-d-i-n-g). But seriously, we make goals and we practically beat them to death until they work, but sometimes they aren’t meant to happen in our time frame. Be happy where you are, celebrate what you have achieved and reevaluate the goal, just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t. It is okay to make changes, it doesn’t mean you failed.
I have seen this happen to many people when they focus too hard on the goal and not enough on the journey. Take the time to celebrate the little things, otherwise, you will always be miserable. Sure you wanted to lose 50lb, but that doesn’t make your 30lb loss and less impressive. Be excited about THAT achievement. One summer I decided to train to run a 10k, now I am probably the worst runner ever. Just picture the rhino in Jumanji that follows the other animals in the stampede around huffing and puffing, that’s me. I was so incredibly slow, and I wasn’t reaching my goals but I was improving. Before starting training I wasn’t even able to run a mile straight let alone a 10k. With time I worked my way up to a 5k (about 3 miles) but I never quite made it to that 10k. It was up to me to focus on the progress, not the failure because going from not running to a 5k should still be seen as an achievement right? Sure other people in my group were super fast and could run forever, but they aren’t me, and that wasn’t what my body could handle. You are you and no one else, take that as a compliment and be YOU! Celebrate you, enjoy today, take the journey for what it is, and experience life. You are where you are meant to be right now, rejoice in that and if it’s not where you want to be, then use it as a stepping stone, not a road block! Happy Wednesday everyone!